Protected by Darkness, Destroyed by It
Time and time again, the men I work with in recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors share a story that is strikingly familiar. At a very young age, a parent discovered...Read more
(Please Don't) Tell Me I'm Pretty
As a couple’s therapist, I am often asked about “Love Languages” and their usefulness in relationships. The idea of the five love languages originated with a book by Baptist pastor...Read more
When Your Thoughts Are Your Problem
All people have intrusive thoughts. The phrase "intrusive thoughts" might seem to be somewhat mysterious. How can our own thoughts be "intrusive"? Why do some of our thoughts seem to...Read more
Step Zero: Facing Our Shadow
“Emotional sickness is avoiding reality at all costs. Emotional health, rather, is embracing reality at all costs.”
Scott M. Peck, The Road Less Traveled
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Appreciate Your Anger
In my work with partner betrayal, anger is crucial to the healing process. Not only does it let us know we’ve been betrayed, but it also “shields us...Read more
Taking Action and Being the Change You Need
“It’s all in God’s hands". That’s what my husband and I told ourselves as we struggled with infertility. At the time, we had been together 10 years, married...Read more
The Connection Equation
As a therapist, but also as a husband and father, I continue to be fascinated by how our neurobiology points to that fact that we are created for...Read more
Inside Jokes
My brother calls me Michelle (he pronounces it Mee-chelle). We once knew someone named Mike Limbskull (not a real person). He says the word 'snuffles' and I know...Read more
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