Protected by Darkness, Destroyed by It
Time and time again, the men I work with in recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors share a story that is strikingly familiar. At a very young age, a parent discovered...Read more
(Please Don't) Tell Me I'm Pretty
As a couple’s therapist, I am often asked about “Love Languages” and their usefulness in relationships. The idea of the five love languages originated with a book by Baptist pastor...Read more
When Your Thoughts Are Your Problem
All people have intrusive thoughts. The phrase "intrusive thoughts" might seem to be somewhat mysterious. How can our own thoughts be "intrusive"? Why do some of our thoughts seem to...Read more
Step Zero: Facing Our Shadow
“Emotional sickness is avoiding reality at all costs. Emotional health, rather, is embracing reality at all costs.”
Scott M. Peck, The Road Less Traveled
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Inside Jokes
My brother calls me Michelle (he pronounces it Mee-chelle). We once knew someone named Mike Limbskull (not a real person). He says the word 'snuffles' and I know...Read more
Biological Rudeness
Have you ever had a conversation with a friend and you overreact to something they say and you’re not sure why? Or have you been in the middle...Read more
Open to Life: Hope in Every Season
As we cycle, again, through the Church season of Lent and now enjoy 50 days of Easter celebration, I reflect on the ways that God is always offering...Read more
What's Behind that 'Look'?
Despite having been married for almost 8 years now and 7 kids later, my wife and I still give each other 'looks' that can be deceiving or misconstrued....Read more